Memorial Day

The first large scale observation of Memorial day was May 30, 1868. Originally known as Decoration day, it was a day to remember the fallen from the Civil War by laying flowers and Wreaths on the graves of fallen soldiers. (1) Today, the tradition continues at places like Arlington National Cemetery, where members of the 3rd Infantry Regiment (known as The Old Guard) places flags at every headstone in the cemetery, as well as the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier (2).

To many, Memorial Day is a four-day weekend marking the beginning of summer, filled with barbecues and camping trips. To others it can be a painful day, where we remember friends or family members who laid down their lives in the service to our nation. It is a day filled with memories both happy and painful. This Memorial Day I will be remembering 6 of my friends who I served with. I have never liked the saying "Happy Memorial Day," as it isn't a happy day. I have always been the type to silently observe the "holiday," reflecting on those who are no longer with us. But time is slowly changing my outlook on it. I know many others have a sad feeling towards this day, but I have heard it said that we must live our lives for those who can no longer live theirs. The way I see it, the barbecues and camping trips are our chance to spend time with friends and family and cherish every moment of this life we can. I think it is safe to say that everyone who has served in the military or some high risk job, like first responders, can appreciate how precious life is. Use that time to share stories of our friends and family that have passed, as long as they are remembered and their stories told, a part of them will continue to live on.

If you find yourself feeling the weight of emotions on Memorial Day, please reach out to someone. Call those you served with, talk to friends or family. Please don't try to deal with it on your own.

Written by James Tallakson, Rucking Tough Rucker